You've probably gotten started on tasks or missions that sounded good at first only to quickly run into the frustration that "No" it is indeed not the action or habit you can or want to stick to.
So you stop. And you may try something new, but for most people it ends here.
It may be a big, life-altering new action that you turned away from like those that, with continuation could lead to weight loss, a health turn-around, or a good social life boost or it might be little actions you thought would be healthy only to find that they now feel tedious.
One might say that you fell out of discipline. Or as a pattern, you aren't disciplined. But I would never say that because I know there's a lot working against a person in trying to make any self-motivated habit change.
In fact, most of us never consciously choose our next directions but rather we fall into new patterns based on what others are doing around us and the circumstances that befall us.
In the Habit Change LAB, we work through that internal resistance you feel so you get out of your own way and start making big strides in new habits in 90 days or less.
The thing is, you always keep your dreams and desires, they never really go away. You may stuff them down or make excuses of why you can't get them - like you're too young, too old, too far beyond it, too this, too that - but those are just that, excuses. Your dreams and desires are still your compasses. They still means something for you.
There's a beautiful balance that is involved when a person both A) Has a desire or the big picture in mind of what they want and B) Takes the little actions necessary to achieve that big picture.
The big picture works when paired with the little actions...
In the Habit Change LAB, we use components of these positive mind-set disciplines to help you finally get into action: *CBT= Cognitive Behavioral Therapy - a form of psychotherapy that treats problems and boosts happiness by modifying dysfunctional emotions, behaviors, and thoughts. NLP= Neurolinguistic Programming - a subconscious approach to improving communication, personal development, and psychotherapy. EFT and Tapping= a combination of Ancient Chinese Acupressure and Modern Psychology that works to ease the mind.
You've probably had some success in the past with your little actions when you've kept consistent.
Maybe you've never thought about what has worked for you, maybe you have. Where it really helps is when you recall what has worked before or brainstorm or uncover what is working for others.
Also, you need to really want something. Wanting something is so important...it's your internal driver. Don't stuff it away. Give yourself permission to want it even if you don't feel right about it right now.
If you don't see a path for getting what you want yet, journal about it, think on it peacefully, go to sleep curious about answers, pray about it, let it go for a bit then allow your desire to bring it back, join the Habit Change LAB this month, but whatever you do, don't let it go.
Maybe even ask yourself if you'd be willing to get started simply by giving yourself permission to do it imperfectly.
When it comes to the little actions that can drive the big desires, there are so many and it all depends on what you want. The list I provide here spans the subjects of health, learning, social life, organization and style. This list is not exhaustive. Here are...
42 Things Worth Making a Habit:
To practice keeping one of these listed things habitual and seeing how it benefits you, or learn how to choose your own actions join the FREE Health Challenge of the Month or jump into the Habit Change LAB to systematically make habit change.
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